How to Have a Self Care Tea Party

Are you feeling run down or burnt out? Sometimes all you need is a little me-time. Pamper yourself without breaking the bank by having a self care tea party. Relax and recharge while doing something fun and cheap.

The point of a self care tea party is to help you relax. It should feel like a special treat without being too fancy or creating too much work for you. The key is to only have these tea parties once in a great while; otherwise they begin to lose their charm and thus their effect.

Tea has been associated with good moods and better performance for a long time. Some studies even suggest that tea can help improve a person’s creativity and alertness over time. Some teas are said to help with specific types of pain, though there’s little research to back that up at this time. The point is, experts and laymen alike agree that tea is good for you.

Decorating for a Self Care Tea Party

Setting an appropriate atmosphere is probably the most important part of a self care tea party. Pick something that will be relaxing to you, whether that means opening the windows and letting the fresh air in, or closing the blinds and lighting candles.

Then decorate the table. Put a fancy table cloth on, and get out cloth napkins if you have them. Put out paper doilies, and flowers, if it fits the mood of your tea party. If you are inviting a few friends, put out some pretty place cards. Use your best dishes and fanciest tea cups or mugs.

In general, try to make things feel fancy and out of the ordinary. This is very easy to do with a very low budget. Napkin folding is one of my favorite ways to decorate. It’s easy, it’s relaxing, and it looks super cute. If you want to learn more about it, check out this awesome video. (These are cloth napkins, but this is also easy to do with paper napkins if that’s all you have.)

What to Drink at a Tea Party

Tea is the most obvious drink for a tea party, and like I mentioned before it has great health benefits. But if you don’t like tea, or simply aren’t in the mood for it, there are lots of alternatives. I do recommend a decaffeinated drink, as it will help you relax more. Caffeine is very stimulating, and while this is great in some cases, that is not what you want for a self care tea party.

I also recommend serving a hot drink for your tea party. Hot drinks are known to be more relaxing and to provide relief from pain and fatigue. Besides, hot drinks just make you feel more cozy, don’t you think?

Teas I Recommend (all decaffeinated) :

  • Celestial Seasonings Raspberry Zinger
  • Celestial Seasonings Honey Vanilla Chamomile
  • Celestial Seasonings True Blueberry
  • Teami Bloom (loose leaf)
  • Tea Source Peppermint (loose leaf)
  • Tea Source Lemon Sunset (loose leaf)

Other Drink Ideas (using decaf coffee):

What Food to Have at a Self Care Tea Party

Tea party food is just as important, if not more so, than the actual drink you’re serving. I recommend light foods, mostly served cold. It’s tempting to only have sweets, but you will definitely feel better in the long run if you also serve some savory foods. My personal favorite savory tea party snacks are cream cheese and black olive sandwiches.

Tea Party Foods I Recommend

  • Sandwiches cut into cute shapes with cookie cutters
    • Peanut butter and jelly
    • Cream cheese and black olive
    • Cream cheese and cucumber
    • Peanut butter and honey
    • Egg salad
  • Cupcakes with cute wrappers, or served on small doilies
  • Scones
  • Tortilla Pinwheels
  • Cookies
  • Pigs in a blanket
  • Deviled eggs
  • Fruit kabobs
  • Cheese and crackers
  • Mini quiches
  • Cream puffs

Don’t forget to set out sugar, honey, and cream for your guests to use in their drinks!

What to Wear to a Self Care Tea Party

There are basically two types of self care tea party clothes. You can dress up really fancy, put on make up, and fix your hair. Or you can have your tea in something comfy like sweat pants or pjs and slippers. It all depends what type of vibe you’re going for.

If you’re having a candle lit type of tea party, maybe near the end of the day, I suggest going for the sweat pants. This is a good choice if you’re having tea at the end of a long day. Try making it a little more low key. It’s still important to decorate (that’s how you make it special), but try doing something simple like bringing a comfortable arm chair to the table and stringing up some fairy lights.

If you have more time and are feeling more awake, take the time to dress up and go all out with decorations. It will help you to feel energizing, and it will boost your confidence. This kind of tea party might be better for a weekend when you can spend several hours getting ready for it.

Should You Invite Guests?

The point of a self care tea party is to help you relax and recharge. If having people over wears you out, or you get stressed about making things perfect for them, then it’s better to have a solo tea party. These can be just as fun though!

On the other hand, if being around other people helps you feel better, and party planning is your forte, then go ahead and invite some people! My suggestion would be to only invite a few close friends. Even if you’re very extroverted, preparing a party for a large group of people can get tiring. Invite a few people you are close with, and spend the time having deep conversations. It can be very cathartic.

What to Do Afterward

If the point of a self care tea party is to relax, going right back into a stressful situation or mindset is not the right way to end it. If you’re able to, try following the tea party with a hot bubble bath, a good book, or even just a short foot rub. If you’re short on time, try one of these ideas. Avoid screen time and really try to focus on taking care of yourself. Trust me, you’ll feel better for it in the end.

What are your Self Care Tea Party ideas? How would you decorate? What would you serve? Would you invite friends? Share your thoughts with me in the comments!

Until next week!

–Kori Joanne

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My name is Kori and I like reading, crocheting, and walks in the sunshine. I live in Northern Wisconsin with my husband. My favorite way to spend the evening is taking a long hot bath and curling up on the couch with a cup of cocoa.

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